“Let it go, let it go…” and so the song continues. I must be one of the only people in the Western world to not have seen that film! I have managed to avoid it so
Category: Live Without Suffering
How is that search for happiness going? If you are anything like me you might describe it as ongoing; it is a constant search for something that is going to make us feel better. We
My guided meditations: Guided sleep meditation, ‘Restoring your True Self’ guided meditation and a simple five-minute grounding meditation with video. Insight timer: https://insighttimer.com/ 00:50 – Going over the myths about meditation. 01:45 – Falling asleep
Help, I can’t stop thinking! Whenever anybody mentions addictions we immediately jump to thinking they mean something like alcohol, drug or sex addiction. Although these are very real and arguably more destructive than many of the
When we cannot sleep, stay asleep or struggle to fall asleep it is quite often because we are trying too hard. When I started the self-improvement growth phase of my life a few years ago I didn’t
After a relatively recent split up that took me by complete shock (as I had no idea anything was wrong – typical man!) I was left completely numb, I felt nothing and thoughts seemed to vanish as I was in disbelief. But after a few days the thoughts and feelings started to creep back in and then take over. The barrage of emotions and memories was relentless. The pain was real, and far more than I’d experienced before.
I started drinking. Doing anything to find a way to get some sleep. I wasn’t previously a big drinker, for me it would be the occasional beer with a movie or the odd party once a year where I would have a little too much and throw caution to the wind.
We all struggle with our emotions. A two-year-old has a tantrum because they cannot have something they want in that moment. And equally, a 40-year-old will struggle with feelings of anger over a situation they cannot control.
What’s the difference?
I remember back when I was around six years old, my parents were being incredibly unreasonable and stopping me walking 3 miles alone to the gas station to claim my free Smurf toy. At the time when you refuelled the car you would be given tokens which you could then trade in for little Smurf characters. They were amazing, I already had 10 and I wanted another.
Without a doubt, the number one way to live a happier life is to practice gratitude. But why is it so important, and if it’s simply ‘appreciating what we have’, then why do so few people do it?
We become so focused on what we want, what we don’t want, and what we haven’t got, that we miss out on everything we do have. For weeks we desire a new item we’ve seen in a shop or online, we save our money or find a way to get it. When we finally get it we feel great, opening the item and enjoying this nice new experience we’ve looked forward to.
Three weeks later, everything is back to normal and we no longer spare a thought for this inanimate object that gave us such delight and pleasure just a few weeks ago.
Over-dramatic? Maybe a little? No, I don’t think so.
What is an easy way to practice gratitude?
I was told a few years ago by one of my teachers happiness is a state of mind. Oh really? So, all my life I am choosing to be miserable? Determined to prove my teacher