Do you feel like you are always suffering? Ask yourself this question.

Anybody can be happy when things are going smoothly, you can pay your bills, in a secure relationship and your career is comfortable. It isn’t until something really sideswipes us to such an amount that we have no choice but to deal with it. Something that causes us a lot of pain and upset. Something that knocks us on our butt to such a degree that we see no way out. We feel like giving up and just allowing the world to continue hitting us because nothing else matters any more. In the summer of 91 I remember sitting on the...

What advice would I give my younger self based on what I know today?

During a recent interview I was asked what advice I would give to my younger self based on what I know today? That was easy. I never even had to think about it. “Read more books, watch less TV and appreciate time more than money.” It came out like a pre-defined script. But, I’ve been thinking about the question ever since and with a little time and reflection I would like to change my advice. Watching less TV could lead to any number of other time-killing activities and reading books could lead me down into any type of direction,...

Overcoming the Fear of Failure

While attending secondary school, I used to run cross-country and was moderately good; good enough to run for the school and my county on a couple of occasions. Prior to becoming paralysed in 1991, I wanted to run the London Marathon. You know, one of those things I was ‘going to do’. I saw it as an egoic challenge and something that would make me feel good if I was to complete it. Although the accident that followed left me unable to feel or move any of my body below my chest, let alone run any kind of marathon,...

Why I’m giving up on my search for happiness.

I’m serious, after many years of my constant search for happiness I decided to give up. Let me explain why. While walking home just after dark, a women sees a man searching for something at the base of a streetlight. As she approaches him, she asks… “What are you looking for?” “My keys.” Replies the man as he continues to search. After a short while of searching she asks “where did you lose them?” “In my house.” “Then why are you searching for them here?” “Because it is dark in my house.” Although this tale seems ridiculous, it makes...

Merry Christmas

Yes, there is no escaping it is this time of year again. And I’m not going to downplay it simply because I love Christmas. I’m lucky I live in a country where we have more than we need and every Christmas has been something special. Here’s my little Christmas message wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and explaining what it means to me....

How to move on when you don’t want too.

How to move on when you don't want to

When Hernan Cortes, A Spanish Conquistador landed along with 600 soldiers in 11 ships on the Mexican shores 500 years ago, they were given no options but to either return as heroes or die in battle. Cortes gave the unthinkable order to ‘burn the ships’. His soldiers were outnumbered and under ‘normal circumstances’ (if there is such a thing in war) they wouldn’t have stood a chance in winning. However, they DID win. Okay, ending a relationship whether it’s with a romantic partner, a work colleague or a friend, is not the same as conquering a country but the...

How to deal with hard times

In this video I talk about my favourite quote “you never know what worse luck your bad luck saves you from” Cormac McCarthy. More importantly, I talk about how the quote helps me when dealing with hard times and especially when things go wrong. When things do go wrong as they inevitably do eventually we often see the alternative as some kind of utopia a life that turned out substantially better that we are now missing out on. So if you’d like to know how to deal with hard times you have to stay aware of how you replay the...

Doing this ONE thing WILL improve your life!

Do something every day that SCARES YOU! Whenever I see this quote on the Internet, I immediately think of doing something thrilling that I fear doing, although something inside tells me I would enjoy it. Like a bungee jump, skydiving or zip wire of some kind. Perhaps we should look at it a little different. According to the Buddha, we will experience these 8 vicissitudes during our lives no matter what our intention or actions may be. Pleasure and pain. Gain and loss. Praise and blame. Fame and disrepute. I’d like to focus on just the first one, pleasure...

5 steps to becoming a Luck Magnet

Luck – that special, elusive something – an invisible, powerful magnet that attracts success, money and love.   We all want it, but how do we get to have more of it in our lives?  And why is it that some of us are lucky and some aren’t?   Some call it a ‘nose for business’, other’s acting on a hunch that paid off or simply getting an abundance of the right ideas. Richard Branson and Simon Cowell are well known billionaire entrepreneurs who left school without qualifications, and acted on their instinctive hunches, taking risks others daren’t take to get...

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