Woke up replaying something you said or did? A gentle morning meditation for the voice inside that says it was your fault.
About 10 minutes with Steven Webb’s calm voice and music underneath.
We don’t argue with the voice. It thinks it is helping, like a guard who shouts to keep you safe. Terrible manners, but a good heart. So we thank it, find where the blame sits in the body, usually the chest or low in the belly, and let that place soften a little on each out breath. Nothing to fix. Then three wishes, said slowly: may I be kind to myself today, may I put down what I cannot change, may I know I am enough, even on the days I get it wrong. You are allowed to begin the day forgiven. I’m human. It’s what we do.
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Steven Webb: Hi, I'm Steven Webb, and welcome to a gentle morning meditation for that voice inside that says, "It was
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Steven Webb: your fault."
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Steven Webb: And if you woke up this morning replaying something you said or did, or you tend to go to bed doing that,
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Steven Webb: this is for you.
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Steven Webb: You don't need to do anything with your body or your breath.
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Steven Webb: Just become aware So allow your body to sit comfortably Finally, You can gently close your eyes And just
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Steven Webb: become aware of your breath.
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Steven Webb: Your body knows how to breathe And also your body knows how to relax the, we just allow We just allow
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Steven Webb: these things to happen And while you're just settling in, I just want to say a few things I'll talk about
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Steven Webb: self-blame.
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Steven Webb: I just mean that voice inside that points to you and says that it was your fault, or you should not have
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Steven Webb: done that, or you could have done something better, or with hindsight you could have done it a different
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Steven Webb: way.
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Steven Webb: All these different ways in which we just replay these situations and we think that we could have done
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Steven Webb: it better So as you continue to invite your body to relax Your head and your forehead, your jaw and shoulders
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Steven Webb: arms and fingers and your belly, even your legs and toes And even your eyebrows and every part of your
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Steven Webb: body just allow it to relax in this moment Breathe in calm, breathe out breathe out, and let the moment
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Steven Webb: be what it is Allow your breath to be what it is You may notice your mind has gone a little quieter If
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Steven Webb: you're anything like me, you wake up in the morning and your mind is already busy.
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Steven Webb: And not so much with today, but with yesterday.
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Steven Webb: That thing we said, that thing we didn't do, the mind plays it again and again, like it's hoping for some
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Steven Webb: kind of different ending The words that came out wrong, the message, the moment you snapped, the thing
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Steven Webb: you forgot And there's a voice standing over all of it saying, you knew better And the strange part is
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Steven Webb: that the voice thinks it's helping.
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Steven Webb: It believes that if it blames you first and blames you hardest, no one else can hurt you with it.
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Steven Webb: No one else can use it.
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Steven Webb: It's like a guard that shouts at you to keep you safe Terrible manners, but it's a good heart So this
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Steven Webb: morning, we just don't fight the voice.
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Steven Webb: We don't correct it.
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Steven Webb: We don't argue.
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Steven Webb: We just allow it to be what it is.
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Steven Webb: Allow that voice to be there Notice it in the same way that we notice the rain on the window And we say
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Steven Webb: quietly, "I hear you.
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Steven Webb: Thank you for trying to keep me safe And now let's just find where the blame sits in the body Most of
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Steven Webb: the time for me, it just lands in the chest or low in the belly And rest your attention there just generally
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Steven Webb: for a moment And each time you breathe out, just allow that place to soften a little Nothing to fix Just
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Steven Webb: softer than it was And the Buddha said something really lovely about this.
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Steven Webb: He said you could search the whole world for someone who deserves your kindness more than you And you
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Steven Webb: would not find them nowhere, not one person You made a mistake It may not have even been a mistake, but
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Steven Webb: someone may think you did, and that's repeating in your head And that's not the same as being a mistake.
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Steven Webb: Blame keeps looking backwards.
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Steven Webb: Kindness looks at you and says, kindness is here with you this morning Now we're going to do three affirmations.
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Steven Webb: Just slowly.
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Steven Webb: May I be kind to myself today.
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Steven Webb: May I put down what I cannot change.
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Steven Webb: May I know I am enough.
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Steven Webb: Even on the days I get it wrong May I be kind to myself today May I put down what I cannot change May
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Steven Webb: I know I am enough even on the days I get it wrong The voice of blame is one of hundreds inside of you.
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Steven Webb: So is the voice that forgives.
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Steven Webb: So is the one that starts again.
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Steven Webb: Every one of them is trying to look after you in their own clumsy way You are allowed to begin the day
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Steven Webb: forgiven In a moment, I'll guide you back, And we'll take this softness with us through the day, whatever
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Steven Webb: comes.
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Steven Webb: Ready to meet ready to meet the voice of blame with also the voice of forgiveness.
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Steven Webb: And a smile and go, So "I'm human.
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Steven Webb: It's what we do."
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Steven Webb: So five, just become aware of the room you're in.
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Steven Webb: Four, just gently open your eyes.
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Steven Webb: Three, shake out your arms and maybe shake out your fingers and toes.
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Steven Webb: Two, just look around slightly.
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Steven Webb: And just one, just take a deeper breath and just feel a little bit of gratitude for your voices inside.
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Steven Webb: They're all there to protect you in their own small way.
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Steven Webb: They don't always get it right Thank you for sitting with me today.
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Steven Webb: It does mean a lot, and all these meditations are brought to you completely free.
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Steven Webb: We don't put any adverts in them because of the kindness of the people that donate a coffee.
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Steven Webb: If you'd like to support my work and find out about Stillness in the Storms, my other podcast that helps
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Steven Webb: you through difficult times, just head over to stevenwebb.uk.
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Steven Webb: I'm sure there's a link somewhere on this page.
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Steven Webb: And thank you.
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Steven Webb: Namaste.
00:00:00,750 --> 00:00:08,280
Steven Webb: Hi, I'm Steven Webb, and welcome to a gentle morning meditation for that voice inside that says, "It was
2
00:00:08,330 --> 00:00:09,210
Steven Webb: your fault."
3
00:00:10,030 --> 00:00:16,900
Steven Webb: And if you woke up this morning replaying something you said or did, or you tend to go to bed doing that,
4
00:00:16,950 --> 00:00:18,190
Steven Webb: this is for you.
5
00:00:19,590 --> 00:00:23,260
Steven Webb: You don't need to do anything with your body or your breath.
6
00:00:23,310 --> 00:00:37,770
Steven Webb: Just become aware So allow your body to sit comfortably Finally, You can gently close your eyes And just
7
00:00:37,820 --> 00:00:39,560
Steven Webb: become aware of your breath.
8
00:00:40,540 --> 00:00:55,480
Steven Webb: Your body knows how to breathe And also your body knows how to relax the, we just allow We just allow
9
00:00:55,530 --> 00:01:14,880
Steven Webb: these things to happen And while you're just settling in, I just want to say a few things I'll talk about
10
00:01:14,930 --> 00:01:16,190
Steven Webb: self-blame.
11
00:01:16,810 --> 00:01:23,960
Steven Webb: I just mean that voice inside that points to you and says that it was your fault, or you should not have
12
00:01:24,010 --> 00:01:29,960
Steven Webb: done that, or you could have done something better, or with hindsight you could have done it a different
13
00:01:30,010 --> 00:01:30,810
Steven Webb: way.
14
00:01:31,370 --> 00:01:38,380
Steven Webb: All these different ways in which we just replay these situations and we think that we could have done
15
00:01:38,430 --> 00:01:53,180
Steven Webb: it better So as you continue to invite your body to relax Your head and your forehead, your jaw and shoulders
16
00:01:54,800 --> 00:02:11,150
Steven Webb: arms and fingers and your belly, even your legs and toes And even your eyebrows and every part of your
17
00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:28,320
Steven Webb: body just allow it to relax in this moment Breathe in calm, breathe out breathe out, and let the moment
18
00:02:28,370 --> 00:02:47,490
Steven Webb: be what it is Allow your breath to be what it is You may notice your mind has gone a little quieter If
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00:02:47,540 --> 00:02:51,400
Steven Webb: you're anything like me, you wake up in the morning and your mind is already busy.
20
00:02:52,260 --> 00:02:55,440
Steven Webb: And not so much with today, but with yesterday.
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00:02:56,400 --> 00:03:07,090
Steven Webb: That thing we said, that thing we didn't do, the mind plays it again and again, like it's hoping for some
22
00:03:07,140 --> 00:03:16,710
Steven Webb: kind of different ending The words that came out wrong, the message, the moment you snapped, the thing
23
00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:26,730
Steven Webb: you forgot And there's a voice standing over all of it saying, you knew better And the strange part is
24
00:03:26,780 --> 00:03:28,940
Steven Webb: that the voice thinks it's helping.
25
00:03:29,700 --> 00:03:38,560
Steven Webb: It believes that if it blames you first and blames you hardest, no one else can hurt you with it.
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Steven Webb: No one else can use it.
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00:03:42,580 --> 00:03:58,770
Steven Webb: It's like a guard that shouts at you to keep you safe Terrible manners, but it's a good heart So this
28
00:03:58,820 --> 00:04:01,340
Steven Webb: morning, we just don't fight the voice.
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00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,480
Steven Webb: We don't correct it.
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Steven Webb: We don't argue.
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00:04:06,460 --> 00:04:10,110
Steven Webb: We just allow it to be what it is.
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00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:21,520
Steven Webb: Allow that voice to be there Notice it in the same way that we notice the rain on the window And we say
33
00:04:21,570 --> 00:04:23,470
Steven Webb: quietly, "I hear you.
34
00:04:24,450 --> 00:04:44,720
Steven Webb: Thank you for trying to keep me safe And now let's just find where the blame sits in the body Most of
35
00:04:44,770 --> 00:04:53,360
Steven Webb: the time for me, it just lands in the chest or low in the belly And rest your attention there just generally
36
00:04:53,410 --> 00:05:22,150
Steven Webb: for a moment And each time you breathe out, just allow that place to soften a little Nothing to fix Just
37
00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:31,390
Steven Webb: softer than it was And the Buddha said something really lovely about this.
38
00:05:32,050 --> 00:05:41,650
Steven Webb: He said you could search the whole world for someone who deserves your kindness more than you And you
39
00:05:41,700 --> 00:05:59,230
Steven Webb: would not find them nowhere, not one person You made a mistake It may not have even been a mistake, but
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00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:09,470
Steven Webb: someone may think you did, and that's repeating in your head And that's not the same as being a mistake.
41
00:06:10,570 --> 00:06:12,850
Steven Webb: Blame keeps looking backwards.
42
00:06:13,910 --> 00:06:28,970
Steven Webb: Kindness looks at you and says, kindness is here with you this morning Now we're going to do three affirmations.
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00:06:31,030 --> 00:06:32,650
Steven Webb: Just slowly.
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00:06:33,890 --> 00:06:36,530
Steven Webb: May I be kind to myself today.
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Steven Webb: May I put down what I cannot change.
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Steven Webb: May I know I am enough.
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Steven Webb: Even on the days I get it wrong May I be kind to myself today May I put down what I cannot change May
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Steven Webb: I know I am enough even on the days I get it wrong The voice of blame is one of hundreds inside of you.
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Steven Webb: So is the voice that forgives.
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Steven Webb: So is the one that starts again.
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Steven Webb: Every one of them is trying to look after you in their own clumsy way You are allowed to begin the day
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00:07:47,410 --> 00:08:05,944
Steven Webb: forgiven In a moment, I'll guide you back, And we'll take this softness with us through the day, whatever
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00:08:05,994 --> 00:08:06,248
Steven Webb: comes.
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00:08:06,298 --> 00:08:11,470
Steven Webb: Ready to meet ready to meet the voice of blame with also the voice of forgiveness.
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00:08:12,530 --> 00:08:16,030
Steven Webb: And a smile and go, So "I'm human.
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00:08:16,810 --> 00:08:18,410
Steven Webb: It's what we do."
57
00:08:26,310 --> 00:08:29,590
Steven Webb: So five, just become aware of the room you're in.
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00:08:30,030 --> 00:08:32,430
Steven Webb: Four, just gently open your eyes.
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00:08:32,930 --> 00:08:36,770
Steven Webb: Three, shake out your arms and maybe shake out your fingers and toes.
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00:08:37,310 --> 00:08:39,730
Steven Webb: Two, just look around slightly.
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00:08:40,170 --> 00:08:48,930
Steven Webb: And just one, just take a deeper breath and just feel a little bit of gratitude for your voices inside.
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00:08:50,050 --> 00:08:53,630
Steven Webb: They're all there to protect you in their own small way.
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Steven Webb: They don't always get it right Thank you for sitting with me today.
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00:09:00,900 --> 00:09:06,320
Steven Webb: It does mean a lot, and all these meditations are brought to you completely free.
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00:09:06,620 --> 00:09:13,040
Steven Webb: We don't put any adverts in them because of the kindness of the people that donate a coffee.
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00:09:13,460 --> 00:09:19,850
Steven Webb: If you'd like to support my work and find out about Stillness in the Storms, my other podcast that helps
67
00:09:19,900 --> 00:09:24,480
Steven Webb: you through difficult times, just head over to stevenwebb.uk.
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00:09:25,220 --> 00:09:28,160
Steven Webb: I'm sure there's a link somewhere on this page.
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Steven Webb: And thank you.
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Steven Webb: Namaste.