Why the hell do so many of us find it hard to practice gratitude, if it’s the golden ticket to happiness? We spend our days aching for the next shiny thing—be it a gadget, a promotion, or even a love affair. And when we finally grab it, a fleeting sense of euphoria washes over us. Yet, give it a fortnight, and that object of desire fades into the mundane scenery of our lives.

Sound like an exaggeration? Not one bit.

The Nitty-Gritty: How to Make Gratitude a Habit

Instead of keeping up this incessant chase, how about pausing to acknowledge the stuff that’s already enriching your life? No, it doesn’t mean you’ve got to pen an essay every morning. Just a quick jot down of five things that make your day a tad brighter. This isn’t some woo-woo advice; it’s neuroscience. The act of noting down these gratitude points wires your brain to shift focus—from what’s lacking to what’s plentiful.

The Why: Because It Bloody Works!

Don’t take my word for it. Try it. Every morning, even before the alarm rings and reality sets in, I mentally list five things I’m grateful for. Rain, for example. We moan about it, but could you imagine a world with eternal sunshine? Or my fan, which brings the much-needed breeze on a sultry night. This isn’t about listing your “favourite” possessions, but awakening to the overlooked gems that add a sheen to our daily lives.

Deepening the Practice

Wondering how to go beyond the superficial layer of thanks-giving? Here’s a clue: confront life without these little blessings. Don’t wallow in that scarcity, just let it touch you long enough to elicit a heartfelt “Thank God I have this.” That’s the root of genuine gratitude, the place where you understand—on a gut level—why these seemingly trivial things matter.

What You Gain: More than You Think

You see, when you teach yourself to honour what you’ve got, you’re essentially reconditioning your mind. The little wonders you used to take for granted? They transform into your daily blessings.

Jack Kornfield once said, “Gratitude is a gracious acknowledgment of all that sustains us, a bow to our blessings, great and small.” Now, imagine if I had relished the ability to walk or to whip up my own morning toast before my life took that sharp turn. We presume our blessings are permanent, yet they are as ephemeral as morning dew.

So, Why Am I a Bloody Optimist?

How do I remain upbeat despite my challenges? It’s down to a potent blend of attitude and perspective. I make a conscious effort to unearth the hidden gift in every circumstance. Finding it might not be instant; sometimes you need the dust to settle to see the gem underneath. But it’s there, as Richard Rohr would say, “in the tragic gaps of life,” waiting to be discovered.

In Closing: It’s Not Just About the Big Stuff

A quick word before you dash off—you don’t need a gratitude list to appreciate life’s grand events; those are hard to ignore. But this exercise is an invitation to celebrate the humdrum, the mundane, the overlooked.

So, is the authentic way to practice gratitude your key to unlocking genuine happiness? I’ll bet my bottom dollar it is.