How to Move On: Lessons from a Difficult Life Lived

Life’s journey is filled with unexpected twists and turns. I’ve faced the seemingly insurmountable challenges of a broken neck, quadriplegia, bankruptcy, and heartbreak. Yet through it all, I’ve learned how to move on. Here’s my story and the lessons I’ve learned.

Embracing Impermanence: “This Shall Pass”

After a swimming accident left me with a broken neck and quadriplegia, I was diagnosed with autonomic dysreflexia, a life-threatening condition that can cause a stroke or worse without warning. It’s a constant reminder of the fragility of life and the necessity to adapt.

In the face of constant physical pain and the loss of privacy, a guiding principle emerged: “This shall pass.”

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

Riding the Waves of Emotional Pain: How to Move On from Heartbreak

Emotional pain from betrayals in relationships and financial ruin hit hard. But I learned how to move on by embracing the waves, finding solace in healthy coping mechanisms like meditation and mindfulness.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” – Rumi

Living in the Now: One Breath at a Time

Taking life one breath at a time, focusing on the present moment, has been crucial in learning how to move on from each challenge. Ground yourself, recognize that this moment is not permanent, and guide your thoughts toward healing.

Healthy Distractions: Ways to Heal and Move On

Finding healthy ways to distract ourselves is vital in learning how to move on from pain. Here are some practical suggestions:

  • Listening to Music: A powerful way to uplift your spirits.
  • Walking: Connect with nature and find inner peace.
  • Meeting Friends: Social connections are healing.
  • Reading: Dive into other worlds and perspectives.
  • Exercising: Build physical strength and mental resilience.
  • Meditation: Mindfulness practices can anchor your thoughts.

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” – Alan Watts

Conclusion: Your Journey on How to Move On

Learning how to move on is a winding path filled with challenges. But with the right mindset and tools, you can embrace life’s hardships and grow.

Celebrate the good thoughts, embrace healthy coping strategies, and always remember, this too shall pass. In my journey through quadriplegia, broken relationships, and financial hardships, I’ve discovered the strength to move on. And so can you, one breath at a time.

“Keep moving forward.” – Walt Disney

Embrace the journey of how to move on. You have the strength and resilience within you.

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FAQ: How to Move on from a Serious Relationship?

Q: How to move on from a serious relationship after a breakup or betrayal?

A: Moving on from a serious relationship, especially after a breakup or betrayal, can be incredibly painful. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you navigate this challenging time:

  1. Acceptance: Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to grieve. It’s normal to feel a mix of emotions.
  2. Embrace Impermanence: Understand that pain and heartbreak are not permanent. As the saying goes, “This shall pass.”
  3. Seek Support: Reach out to friends and family. Consider professional help if needed.
  4. Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that nourish your soul. Listen to music, walk, meditate, exercise, or indulge in hobbies.
  5. Avoid Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: Stay away from addictions or anything that might numb the pain temporarily but cause long-term harm.
  6. Reflect and Grow: Use this experience to learn about yourself and what you desire in future relationships.
  7. Take Your Time: Don’t rush into another relationship. Give yourself time to heal.
  8. Embrace Positive Thoughts: Focus on positive thoughts and affirmations. You might want to start a practice like meditation to train your mind to think in a healing direction.

Remember, every individual’s journey in moving on from a relationship is unique. These steps are general guidelines, and you might find that a different approach works best for you.

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Steven Webb is a renowned meditation teacher with over a decade of experience. Known for his unique approach to quieting the busy mind, Steven navigated through a life of adversity to find his own inner peace. Now, he shares his wisdom to help others build resilience and find tranquility even in life's most turbulent times. Through his writing, courses, and podcast "Stillness in the Storms," Steven empowers people to discover their own sanctuary of inner peace when they need it the most.
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