In my late 20s and having heard about meditation from a TV programme, I thought it would be cool – the whole essence of becoming a calmer person had massive appeal to me. I made myself comfortable, settled down for my planned 30 minutes and told myself I wasn’t going to move, not even to scratch if I had an itch. Well, three minutes in, I decided it was a load of rubbish. There was no hope – my mind was racing more than ever before. I gave up! In my mind I was clearly someone who had irrepressibly strong thoughts, was too intelligent, a supreme multi-tasker… or just not designed to ‘sit […]Continue readingMore Tag
“Let it go, let it go…” and so the song continues. I must be one of the only people in the Western world to not have seen that film! I have managed to avoid it so far – the song on the other hand is a different story, I’ve heard it plenty. What is attachment and why does it hold us back? I’m not talking about the kind of attachment to objects, places or people. Although those things can hold you back too, I am talking about the more subtle attachments, the ones we don’t realise we have. So here goes. 1. Attachment to self. This is […]Continue readingMore Tag
How is that search for happiness going? If you are anything like me you might describe it as ongoing; it is a constant search for something that is going to make us feel better. We spend so much time grabbing onto something we want next, the ever present desires that we think will lift our spirits, even if just temporarily. When I turned 40 everything in my life changed overnight. I was suddenly single, fed up and at an all-time low. Just getting through each day had become a huge challenge. I was glad to get back into bed so I could relax. But even that […]Continue readingMore Tag
My guided meditations: Guided sleep meditation, ‘Restoring your True Self’ guided meditation and a simple five-minute grounding meditation with video. Insight timer: https://insighttimer.com/ 00:50 – Going over the myths about meditation. 01:45 – Falling asleep during meditation. 04:55 – Do I have to sit on the floor to meditate? 05:40 – Where does are angst to come from come from? 06:20 – How long do I meditate for in the morning? 07:20 – Less thinking in meditation. 08:40 – What version do meditation do you use? 09:38 – What is the purpose of meditation? 12:20 – Use a candle or incense stick to focus. 13:50 […]Continue readingMore Tag
Help, I can’t stop thinking! Whenever anybody mentions addictions we immediately jump to thinking they mean something like alcohol, drug or sex addiction. Although these are very real and arguably more destructive than many of the more subtle addictions, we shouldn’t ignore the subtle addictions and how much they can hold us back. Did you ever consider these addictions? Addicted to thinking, wanting more, to desires, spiritual enlightenment, religion, our own beliefs, our own opinions. These are very serious addictions and can be as debilitating as alcohol or drug addiction. Let’s take addiction to thinking – when you simply cannot shut your mind down in any way, you […]Continue readingMore Tag
When we cannot sleep, stay asleep or struggle to fall asleep it is quite often because we are trying too hard. When I started the self-improvement growth phase of my life a few years ago I didn’t put much importance on my sleep. I thought ‘burning the candle at both ends’ wouldn’t affect me. Granted, burning the candle both ends for me means watching self-development videos and reading personal development books! I was wrong. Sleep is one of the most important aspects of health, growth-development and our well-being. Without sleep, the body cannot repair itself and the mind eventually cannot function. Even the Dalai Lama admits ‘sleep is […]Continue readingMore Tag
After a relatively recent split up that took me by complete shock (as I had no idea anything was wrong – typical man!) I was left completely numb, I felt nothing and thoughts seemed to vanish as I was in disbelief. But after a few days the thoughts and feelings started to creep back in and then take over. The barrage of emotions and memories was relentless. The pain was real, and far more than I’d experienced before.
I started drinking. Doing anything to find a way to get some sleep. I wasn’t previously a big drinker, for me it would be the occasional beer with a movie or the odd party once a year where I would have a little too much and throw caution to the wind.Continue readingMore Tag