Finding Meditation Hard? Try using this simple technique instead…

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I first attempted meditation in my late 20s, thinking it would be a cool thing to do. I even thought it might get me a love interest being ‘cool and all that!’

The lotus position of sitting cross-legged and upright on a cushion was out of the question for me due to being paralysed. About me and being paralysed. So I would sit in a quiet place and attempt ‘meditation’ which lasted approximately two minutes.

My thoughts kept coming thick and fast and there was no chance I could sit without thinking for two minutes. I wanted peace, tranquility and blissful escapism. Come on; it cannot be that hard to sit and do nothing.

Dammit. Not only did my thoughts continue I swear they got louder and more frequent.

It’s no good; I gave up. There must be easier ways of being ‘cool’ and as for the peace and tranquility; seriously?

It was nearly 15 years later I attempted it again. I was in a bad place, needed some kind of relief from the pain and suffering from a recent breakup that turned into me hitting rock bottom. So I started reading books and they all mentioned meditation to some degree. I had nothing to loose, so here goes nothing; back to trying to do nothing.

As before my thoughts kept coming thick and fast, louder and more intrusive than ever.

Seriously? Isn’t that the complete opposite of what meditation is?

Over the next couple years and more from necessity of not wanting to suffer anymore than wanting to be cool I persevered, I kept going back and meditating more regularly. Even started as small as 2 minutes twice a day at first.

I learned a lot about mindfulness and meditation during this period and still learning today. I wanted to ‘be good’ I wanted to get it right.  It took me quite a while to realise meditation does not work like that. There is no good or bad meditation, although some may argue. It’s similar to a workout, however intensive, it is still beneficial.

What is the benefit of meditation?

Let’s get one thing straight, meditation is not about clearing your mind of all thoughts. It is about training your conscious mind to recognise when your mind wanders off and gives you the ability by building a new neuro network to return to the present moment. And that’s it.

After all, the pain and suffering is trying to live in and recreate the past or being anxious about the future. So if we have a muscle that is effective at returning to the present without grasping to the past and worrying about the future, how much more relaxed and at peace will you be.

The problem with mindfulness and meditation is partly what we perceive it to be. I thought it was about quieting my thoughts to the extent I could sit and think nothing. When this didn’t happen I quickly dismissed it and more damagingly, I dismissed myself as being not capable or useless at any kind of meditation practice.

Let’s forget mindfulness and meditation, leave that to the experts. We can do something much simpler.

In the video below I take you through the process, it is around four minutes long and I urge you to give it a try. You don’t need to be in any position, you don’t need headphones, all you need to do is press the play button and relax.

Let me know how you feel afterwards in the comments below.

12 thoughts on “Finding Meditation Hard? Try using this simple technique instead…

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    Susan L Suehr - May 12, 2016

    Very lovely and relaxing. Yes, nature helps us be more sensitive and when we are sensitive, we connect with our inner core of power.

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      Steven Webb - May 12, 2016

      Hi Susan,

      Thank you for that nice comment. Yes, I agree. Love being in nature.

      Steven

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    Sue - May 13, 2016

    Excellent -very relaxed and helped with accept my mind wandering off!! Thank you

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      Steven Webb - May 13, 2016

      Thank you.

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    pm - May 14, 2016

    The perfect response to a hyperventilating mind. I’ll be relying on this quite at this period of my life.

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      Steven Webb - May 16, 2016

      Hello, yes indeed. I never thought about it like that, but definitely yes.

      Good luck, let me know how it goes. Steven

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    Sally - August 12, 2016

    Steven I enjoyed very much I did like the video it helped me relax and it has taken away my headache thank you very much hugs Sally

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    Jo Cormack - August 16, 2016

    Thank you Steven. That was lovely. It feels like coming home. Being still and silent, and sitting with my breath. thank you for bringing that moment to my day.

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      Steven Webb - August 17, 2016

      Hi Jo, it’s my pleasure. It’s amazing how good it feels just to slow down sometimes. The hardest thing is remembering and bringing that awareness to do it regularly.

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        Selma Writes - April 20, 2017

        Steven hello. That was relaxing. I’ve tried it before but always thought I had to relinquish all thinking. When that didn’t happen I just figured I just wasn’t getting it. As you point out, that’s what the mind does. Point is to get back to notice your breathing. In the moment.
        ‘thanks for reminding me of that’ that line was strong. Acknowledge the thought that comes and then excuse yourself from it and get back to your breathing. Beautiful. I think I will try this again. Thank you. @Selma

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          Steven Webb - April 20, 2017

          Hi Selma,

          My pleasure. Yes, no off switch!

          Best we hope for is keep returning, enjoying the dance with our thoughts and not get caught up in them.

          Have you joined my newsletter? I will have an starting meditation course coming out very soon. I will be looking for people to help me test it.

          Many thanks, mindfully Steven

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