Feeling exhausted, helpless and lack motivation?

Feeling exhausted, helpless and lacking confidence. You desperately want to do something with your life. Any motivation or energy you had seems to have fucked off to a sunny destination without you.

What happened?

How did this happen?

How did I become this person?

You’re spending more time alone, anxious and feeling depressed. Stuck in a rut, and although you know what you should be doing, you don’t have the energy or the drive to do anything about it.

You hardly recognise the person you have become.

You know you have a purpose.

Inside there is deep-seated ambition desperately waiting to make a difference in the world, to leave a legacy. To find that inner spirit that you had as a child so you can become once again who you were before it all went wrong.

You wake up and tell yourself ‘I can do this’. Then by lunchtime, old habits are setting in, and suddenly six months later you are feeling helpless, exhausted and beating yourself up for failing again.

I just want to be happy, surely that is not too much to ask.

Why me, why does life have to keep me down like it does. I feel like a blind person playing chicken on the busiest motorway in the world.

What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

Yeah well, it certainly does not feel like that. You don’t want to be stronger; you want a break.

Just a little time out.

Is it really too much to ask?

You find that little bit of inspiration, and you tell yourself you can do this. Then you hit that circle of guilt and shame. You are uncomfortable, fear sets in then habits take you away from making the change. Then you are feeling guilty, which quickly goes to shame. At this point, you grasp anything for comfort to avoid the reality such as food, alcohol, narcotics or even sex.

And the cycle continues.

Does this sound like any part of your life?

This was me a few years ago. I had everybody telling me what I should be doing. Nobody really understood how tough my life was.

It’s easy for somebody on the outside, they look in and see a quick snapshot. A happy smiling face, a quick flippant reply ‘I’m fine…’ when in reality I was far from it.

Just think positive! Well damn, why didn’t I think of that?

Give me a break, if it was that easy we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

At this point, I could insert numerous quotes, memes or inspirational videos. And yes they lift us temporarily; however, they do not change our lives.

The brutal reality is this; life is sometimes really damn tough. There is no easy way through.

We spend our life trying to avoid the pain, grabbing hold of the little pleasures in the hope that they will stay so we can disconnect from the underlying agony we are currently going through.

I wanted to do this blog because sometimes motivation is a load of bollocks, and like it or not it does not help most of the time. Go to YouTube, type motivational and instantly thousands of results.

Try it, change your life by watching a video.

It doesn’t work. Again like the quotes, it gives us that little bit of a buzz. That inner light within glows a little brighter temporarily. Then some asshole thought or situation pisses on it within hours.

A little blunt, yep. But, that’s life.

I broke my neck ended up severely paralysed, been heartbroken, cheated on, bankrupt and unsuccessfully attempted suicide. Life is flipping hard. And anybody that’s had a simple, easy life isn’t going to be prepared or experienced to deal with that curveball when it arrives. Because it will.

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Take heart, and you are not alone. Reach out, others have overcome it. Take a breath, that’s hope that tomorrow things can be different.

I haven’t got 5 ways for you to get unstuck. Here are a few links, but mainly I wanted you to know you are not alone.

Remember, you can always talk to me, book a chat and let’s start your fight back and become who you know you are deep inside.

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15 thoughts on “Feeling exhausted, helpless and lack motivation?

  1. Reply
    Linda Fawkes - March 12, 2017

    Very true! Being real about how you feel is one step of progress! Don’t like being told people are worse off blah blah blah! MY FEELINGS ARE MINE!

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      Steven Webb - March 12, 2017

      Thank you Linda, yes always someone to tell you how you should feel.

      Hope you are well, stay blessed. Steven

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    Lorraine Lewis - March 12, 2017

    This speaks deeply to me. I am blind and in a wheekchair from serious cancer. There are other things in my life that suck. Yes, to the getting inspiration for a day or two, then bang! Yes, lufe sucks. And no, people do not understand. But we go on. We HAVE to. Thanks formputting my feelings into wirds

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      Steven Webb - March 13, 2017

      Hi Lorraine,

      Wow, that’s a lot to deal with. That’s the thing with inspiration, it doesn’t last. Everything is temporary, which is a good thing sometimes. How can anybody understand somebody else’s story?

      My pleasure, much appreciation – Steven

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    John Shearer - March 13, 2017

    Funking excellent Steven! Well written. It has made me re-think my marketing strategy. Yours in Awareness.

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      Steven Webb - March 13, 2017

      Thank you John.

      It’s funny, when I stopped trying to write and just write it simply works. It is being in that heart centred awareness.

      Mindfully present – Steven

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    Theresa Martine - March 13, 2017

    I totally agree with you Steven. Of course, nobody likes to hear when things are going badly, but we have to be honest. Those who care will stay with us and those who don’t know where to go!!! It’s those times that we fall and getting up is the hard part, but that is where the inspiration comes from. We always have a choice. Thank you for sharing and I hope the people who need to read it get the same inspiration as I do. Keep up the good work and always love reading your blogs!

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      Steven Webb - March 13, 2017

      Hi Theresa,

      That is very true, on the bright side it does filter out who holds us back. The ones that do truly care will always be there to listen. And absolutely, we always have a choice. It’s just very difficult to see it sometimes.

      Much appreciated, mindfully – Steven

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    Suzi - March 13, 2017

    Good to know I’m not alone but at the same time It’s disheartening to know so many of us feel this way. I try to stay positive then something pisses me off and off I go. which in turn pisses me off at myself then the beatings commence. I just spend an awful lot of time pissed off at myself. It’s exhausting.

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      Steven Webb - March 13, 2017

      Hi Suzi,

      Yeah, there is so much unnecessary suffering. It is how we get out of it is the problem. That continual loop that seems to drag us down.

      I don’t know if you joined my newsletter, but perhaps I can help. There is a form above, plus you get my book.

      Yours mindfully – Steven

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        Suzi - March 14, 2017

        Thank you, Steven.

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    Tina Zanelli - March 14, 2017

    I love your honesty Steven – thank you. My partner passed away six months ago and for the past year, I’ve had to be strong and I thought I was coping well, but last week was one of those when everything goes wrong, or needed fixing and reality hit me. I went into meltdown, but I wouldn’t admit it to anyone else! It’s good to be able to be honest about my feelings with someone. Your lives have been a great help and I’m reading Mindful Grieving, which also is about giving ourselves permission to grieve and accepting it. I do feel exhausted, hopeless and so lonely sometimes, but thanks to you and everyone in the group, I know that I can get through this.

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      Steven Webb - March 14, 2017

      Hi Tina,

      That’s a lot to go through. Yeah, it does at some point hit us! I agree it’s great to have a place where we can be honest. I haven’t heard of that book, I am reading a couple at the moment but I have put it on my list.

      Thank you Tina.

      Mindfully- Steven

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    Craig - March 23, 2017

    Great article Steven. It resonates deeply with me at the moment. However, after reading your story and those of some of your readers above, it puts my problems into perspective.
    Keep up the good work. Just subscribed to your newsletter and look forward to reading more of your articles.

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      Steven Webb - March 23, 2017

      Thank you, Craig,

      Really appreciate that. It does put things in perspective, but then again it’s all relative. It’s like weightlifting, not everybody can bear the same burden. It depends on so many circumstances and where we are at the time.

      Thank you for subscribing, that’s awesome.

      Mindfully – Steven

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